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  • September 21, 2015

    I m fell in love with a brother from a different branch but same Church. We dated and spend much time together. We end the relationship To avoiding sinning.Each of us went different direction but promised after few years we ll  save up and get merried.according to my supriced I heard that he is getting merried to one of the sister in their branch church.

    I saw the girl with the engagement ring on her finger which was supposed to be mine. Should I attending this wedding while I still love this brother?

    How will I face people that knows the relationship I had with him?

    Where will i sit and eat hoping that this was suppose to be my wedding?

    Pray for me.

  • ARBOL373

    October 2, 2015

    Hi there,

    Please allow me to share my opinion.

    If you have felt jealous I dont think that it is unreasonable. Having said that please listen very carefully: you CANNOT continue in your jealousy!

    Firstly, I would have assumed that you communicated to find out (and please be nice about it) directly from him what his position is with respect to you. If it is a case that he has indeed gotten hooked up with someone else, then you have to drop it all like a hot potato! If you communicated during your separation and remained committed to him, and he to you, then he has proven himself to be a deceiver, if it is true that he is getting married to someone else.

    What the brother would have done in such a case is, demonstrate some of his "finer" qualities - that are not exactly fine. You have now seen all that there is to see in him!

    Having verified that he is moving on elsewhere, you need to recollect yourself. This is hard, especially is you are not a person given to the strength of the Word. But this is the chance to draw ever so closer to God. At least you will have learnt that you cannot take a man's word for granted. But the good news is that you can take God at His Word! Be encouraged and lift up your head. Move on with life, because life and time will both move on with or without you!

    Regards

  • ARBOL373

    October 2, 2015

    I forgot to mention: Where will you sit and eat knowing that this was supposed to be your wedding?

    Answer: DO NOT ATTEND THE WEDDING! You DONT have to prove how much of a loving Christian you are by participating in his dishonourable dealings!  On that same note, DO NOT even think about what "people will be thinking"! Thats very foolish. You forget about people and their thoughts and be busy to safegaurd your own thoughts and see to it that they dont become poisoned. Yes its hard, but welcome to the real world! I should also mention to you that you will be very tempted to hate men, distrust all others that show an interest in you and harbour bitterness towards him. SEE TO IT THAT YOU DONT FALL INTO THAT TRAP!

    You are a beautiful young woman, loved of God, chosen by Him to reign in glory and power at the appointed hour and you are going to allow some crook to steal your peace and joy? So get your thoughts straightened out and go on in the strength of God soldier!

  • October 7, 2015

    I needed this, thank you.

  • ARBOL373

    October 8, 2015

    Dearest,

    Be strong in the Lord . Thats sounds like "scriptural talk" for the occassion but it is actually very sound advice. You see, I was betrayed once and well, the rest is history! Now I see that that experience so many years ago, that almost caused me to loose my mind (the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy) and almost drove me to suicide, can be of some benefit to you.

    I want to tell you the secret. It has nothing to do with anything mystical and super-spiritual! It is surprisingly very simple! Its called PERSPECTIVE. This means that you have to CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS. Remember Isaiah 23:6. Now you cant just change your thoughts just because you want to! You spent much time cultivating your soul (thoughts, emotions and ESPECIALLY YOUR WILL-POWER) around this guy. So it will take some effort. But there is great news! Its is really simple to get out of the hole! My dear sister in the Lord, beautiful and greatly beloved child of God, the answer is in Joshua 1:8 and Proverbs 4:21. YOU HAVE TO SPEAK TO YOURSELF. Thats how you change your thoughts.

    Now what are you going to speak to yourself? Let it be the Word of God, for His is Spirit and Life! (John 6:63). So start off by saying out loudly to yourself:

    1 Bless the Lord, O my soul: and all that is within me, bless his holy name.

    2 Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits:

    3 Who forgiveth all thine iniquities; who healeth all thy diseases;

    4 Who redeemeth thy life from destruction; who crowneth thee with lovingkindness and tender mercies;

    5 Who satisfieth thy mouth with good things; so that thy youth is renewed like the eagle's.

    Notice what is going on in these words of Psalm 103. The writer is SPEAKING TO HIS SOUL!

    Now you go on in strength sister....say this out loudly to yourself during the night and day as much as you can.

    Do let me know how you are doing.

    Sincerely,

    The simple man

  • October 14, 2015

    hi...i did it now.

    and i m still going to do it.

    thank u brother.

  • BLESSEDME462

    October 18, 2015

    Hi selma, betrayal from a person you love is surely so painful. Speaking from experience cos my ex husband lett me in his home went to another town and married another girl from our same church. The rest doesnt matter and its been 15 years now. Its only by the grace of God you suvive that hurtful and devastating experience my dear. Please forgive that deciever of a man, and move on ok. And don't even attend that wedding it will only hurt you more. If you still feel like you love him, just pretend he doesnt exist and with time the feeling will go away trust me.

    May God Almighty give you peace. I will pray for you ok. Please know that God knows the reaaon for everything cos nothing is hidden from him under the sun. You are beautiful and your prince will come who will love and appreciate you for who you are ok!!

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