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  • WAYNE763

    December 30

    I have read this statement on these profile 📄 s pages too many times, and even caught myself in the same trap. People say "other people say I'm good looking but I don't think so."

    God has made us all in His Image which makes us beautiful in His sight we need to try and see ourselves as God and others see us.

    You can check and see the remark I made about my OWN profile picture to realize I'm preaching this to myself, as well. It breaks my ♥ that sometimes I don't see God in MY image, either.

    What say you?

  • December 30

    > What say you?

    That you're confusing the issue. Being "beautiful in His [God's] sight" is completely distinct from being considered "beautiful", "handsome", "attractive", or something similar, by a another person.

    > we need to try and see ourselves as God and others see us.

    It should be obvious that the way God sees us and the way other people see us will be fundamentally different for two key reasons:

    • "For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts." -Isa. 55:9
    • "But the LORD said to Samuel, Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart." -1 Sam 16:7 (emphasis added)

    In short, God's way of seeing people is unrelated to their physical appearance, which makes that a very different discussion. People down here are generally trying to find a life-long partner, especially in a site like this one, so physical appearance here does become a relevant factor that people take into account.

    December 31 updated by XRAY948

  • January 3

    In all honesty I think I find it offensive when you say or anybody for that matter say they are ugly

    In the first place God made you in his image, that means you carry a god inside of you that a Lone should boost your confidence

    Yes there are some people who are created more physically attractive than others the Bible said Absalom  was beautiful, little is mentioned about people and their physical beauty in the Bible, which show there are more important things than having good looks. This is not to belittle it.

    However if it's such a bother, dress nicely,have a cut that suits your face, as a Woman use moisturisers, oils, perfumes even make -up and you would look beautiful it's wrong to depend on these things to feel beautiful,

    So there you are as beautiful as you think, haven't you noticed days you are exceptionally happy there is a certain glow about you? That shows beauty at the end of the day comes from inside. So knock that thought off.

    WAYNE763 wrote:

    I have read this statement on these profile 📄 s pages too many times, and even caught myself in the same trap. People say "other people say I'm good looking but I don't think so."

    God has made us all in His Image which makes us beautiful in His sight we need to try and see ourselves as God and others see us.

    You can check and see the remark I made about my OWN profile picture to realize I'm preaching this to myself, as well. It breaks my ♥ that sometimes I don't see God in MY image, either.

    What say you?

  • MARCO825

    January 3

    Let me tell you a story I could never forget and it is true story because I witnessed it.  It was 1983.. late May.  Just matter of few weeks to high school graduation!  I was in a class full of women.  I am only guy!  I was a rose and the women were thorns including the teacher.  

    Anyway, since I am blind in my right eye, I did not see a female classmate broke down into tears and the teacher stopped teaching and knew what was going on with her (apparently maybe she said something I did not see OR said before when I was not there).  The teacher said to all of us to pay attention to this advise.  She told this classmate who was crying about a guy she was torn if she should give this other boy in school a chance to date or something.  The teacher said...

    "You can have someone who is so handsome but ugly inside.  Or you can have someone who is ugly on the outside but beautiful inside but you cannot have both."  The girl was still crying and gasped at that lesson.  You see, this boy really wanted to date with her because he had a crush on her for SIX years.  Remind you, we were seniors and he had a crush on her since sixth grade.

    At the time, none of us had someone special to date or have a relationship with.  I hope that advise helped you!   The teacher said it right.  Why?  I had some real gorgeous girlfriend but so ugly inside!  It was so bad.  Really.  Actually more than one of those gorgeous women.  But I did not marry them because they were ugly inside.  Even not saved.  Well, one of them was but oh man!  Ugly inside.  That is another long story and explaination about faith and the inside of someone.  Anyway, I noticed I dated longer with the ones who are or rather, were average looking on the outside but awesome inside.  There was one I witnessed her to the Lord and she was awesome person.  I loved her but she passed away.  She was going to say yes to marriage according to her friend.  I even wrote my autobiography about all this experience so you will have to wait till right time.  Lord willing.

    Thank you Mrs.M for the lesson!  You are so right!  

  • MARCO825

    January 3

    Oh I forgot.  Yes, that crying girl gave that boy a chance and they dated six years.  They got married and they have three kids.  That boy was just an average looking tall lanky boy who loves to race motorcycles....

    January 3 updated by MARCO825

  • January 3

    We all are fearfully and wonderfully made by the image of God. In my opinion beauty comes from within so outside appearance  don't really define who the person is. You might encounter someone very good looking but what they produce makes you wonder and maybe they're Christian. I literally spend my life in church but the experience with many of the Christians is not pleasant. Some are very beautiful and handsome but they're so not friendly. So the real beauty should be from the heart and the inner being of a person. Just my opinion. So WAYNE763 you're good looking inside out thats what me say!!!

  • February 9

    Hi Hello!

    If you don't mind. I just wanted to ask about "how  would handle things like you are discriminated by someone you know just because you are not like them and they even bullied you just because of that. I even told myself not to mind them but I can't.  I just cried because I don't want to question God for who I am. God emphasizes in the scripture that everyone is unique. It is just that I felt hurt for what they said and I even discouraged to pursue what I wanted to do so. (care to share your thoughts :) :))

  • February 9

    Hi,

    This is only my take on it, but note that this may not be the best place to seek generic advice while providing zero context.

    > how would handle things like you are discriminated by someone you know just because you are not like them

    Just avoid the person or group of people who do that as the situations allow. If this is something that's happening at the workplace, then look at the company rules and/or policies so that you know what you should do.

    Just make sure that it's real harassment/bullying and not just a misunderstanding or something else, avoid wild accusations without evidence, and so on.

    > and they even bullied you just because of that.

    There's a significant lack of context; we have no idea where this is happening (e.g. social life, family life, workplace, etc) and who is doing it (e.g. so-called "friends", family, co-workers), so it's difficult for anyone to suggest anything beyond what I already mentioned above.

    > I just cried because I don't want to question God for who I am.

    The opinions and/or cruel behavior of other people shouldn't get you to question God for who you are. It should get you to realize that some people are not good, and that you'll come across such people from time to time.

    > God emphasizes in the scripture that everyone is unique. It is just that I felt hurt for what they said and I even discouraged to pursue what I wanted to do so.

    That's unfortunate, but learning how to deal with difficult situations is part of life. Depending on the context and/or severity of the situation, you may have different alternatives and/or means to deal with and, hopefully solve, the problem.

    Good luck.

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