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Can a saved woman or man marry a partner who is not saved?

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  • November 8, 2017

    What is your opinion regarding "Can a saved woman or man marry a partner who is not saved?"

  • November 8, 2017

    The Bible has the answer to that question. You can find it in 2 Corinthians 6, where verse 14 specifically addresses it:

    "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" -2 Corinthians 6:14 (KJV)

    The KJV translation is from the year 1610 and Webster's Dictionary of the English Language from 1828 was based on KJV word definitions and so on[2]. So, it makes sense to use that dictionary to find what the words meant:

    "YOKED, participle passive Confined in a yoke; joined; coupled."[1] (my emphasis in italics)

    In other words, the Bible advices against it by saying believers should not be "joined" or become "coupled" with unbelievers on the basis of that difference. That is, there's a fundamental incompatibility not only in worldviews, but also of Spiritual states/conditions.

    So, can they get married? In principle, yes, they could. Should they get married? No, they shouldn't.

    I hope this encourages you to read and study your Bible for answers to your questions, or rather, to ask for Biblical references rather than just our fallible opinions.

    [1] webstersdictionary1828.com/Dictionary/yoked

    [2] webstersdictionary1828.com/Bible

    November 8, 2017 updated by XRAY948

  • MARY822

    November 8, 2017

    Well said XRAY948. Under no sircumstance should a christian man or woman get involved with a non believer.

  • MARY822

    November 8, 2017

    Well said XRAY948. Under no sircumstance should a christian man or woman get involved with a non believer.

  • MARY822

    November 8, 2017

    Well said XRAY948. Under no sircumstance should a christian man or woman get involved with a non believer.

  • November 8, 2017

    From the outset God gives stern warnings to the Isralites about inter-marrying with other nations who worshiped idols.

    In Genesis 24,Genesis 27:46–28:9,Genesis 34:8–9,same principle is repeated in Deutronomy ,Joshua,Kings.

    Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, for they will turn your children away from following me to serve other gods, and the Lord’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you. (Deut. 7:3–4)

    Through out the Old Testament God warns that marrying someone that you don't share the same beliefs with will 'devide your heart'.A good example would be King Solomon who despite his wisdom ultimately lost his heart to idols.

    1 Kings 11:4

    For when Solomon was old his wives turned away his heart after other gods, and his heart was not wholly true to the Lord his God, as was the heart of David his father.

    In Ezra the Israelites who had married foreign women had to repent before the Lord ( see Ezra 9:1-2,10:2-3,10-11) for being unfaithful to God's command.

    Thus these are examples in the old testament coupled with 2 Corinthians 6:14,shows a clear principle that it is not God's best for you as a christian to marry an non-christian.

    The great lesson here being that it's impossible to be in a relationship with a non believer without it affecting or influencing your heart.God's principle is that as christians we are set apart.

    The biggest lie most people believe is that "l will change him or her after we get married". It is wiser to have the same foundation,as it creates & strengthens the marital bond.When the initial excitement of a relationship wears off,the christian marriage stands on the covenant built on God's word & God himself.Marriage is hard enough without the differences in beliefs.

    The lessons in 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 are the exception rather than the norm.Paul is not endorsing marrying non-believers but giving a reconciliatory stance for those who were already married.

    I'm sure you have seen other christians marry unbelievers and it seems to be working.The truth is this is a comprise & it doesn't always work.

    Please visit the link below,take note especially of  points 1 & 2,which lays out why it's important to marry a man/woman that loves God.

    tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2011/ ... d-in-a-husband/

    The article by Kathy Keller called 'Don't take it from me:Reasons you should not marry an Unbeliever"  also gives you great insight into this issue  & three outcomes of what may happen if you marry a non-christian.

    The Message Bible, (a paraphrase of the Bible) 2 Corinthians 6:14 says,

    “Don't become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That's not partnership; that's war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil?”

    Visualize what would happen if a farmer yoked together, say, an ox and a donkey. The heavy wooden yoke, designed to harness the strength of the team, would be askew, as the animals are of different heights, weights, walk at different speeds and with different gaits. The yoke, instead of harnessing the power of the team to complete the task, would rub and chafe BOTH animals, since the load would be distributed unequally. An unequal marriage is not just unwise for the Christian, it is also unfair to the non-Christian, and will end up being a trial for them both.” (not my original words).

    l hope this helps answer your question.

  • November 9, 2017

    Thank you for the sharing I post that question so that it is also a reminder to all Christians not to fall to temptation and not to be equally yoked with the unbelievers. And I do agree with you brethren in this... I'am fully aware of what the bible says regarding this. Let us continually remind our brothers and sisters in Christ regarding this... GOD bless...

  • November 9, 2017

    SHARON525 wrote:

    Thank you for the sharing I post that question so that it is also a reminder to all Christians not to fall to temptation and not to be equally yoked with the unbelievers. And I do agree with you brethren in this... I'am fully aware of what the bible says regarding this. Let us continually remind our brothers and sisters in Christ regarding this... GOD bless...

    Your original post came across as someone with a genuine doubt, not as someone who's trying to "remind" others about what the Bible says they should or shouldn't do.

    If your real intent is to actually "remind" others, then please consider phrasing your posts accordingly and be explicit about it rather than just posting a question and asking for opinions, as it may prompt others to spend their time on something that was not really necessary in the first place --i.e. answering questions no one really had.

    In other words, if you want to remind others of something, then it is you who needs to spend the time and effort to make the case, just like Tina did for you here even though you didn't really have a question or were in need of actual help.

    Regards.

    November 10, 2017 updated by XRAY948

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