Divorce & re-marriage
This forum is so amazing,i really like it!
For my views in short God did not plan for divorce and remarriage as scriptures conveys that he hates divorce! what leads Christians to all these is having God without knowing him in deep! God never keep quiet if you truly ask him for a right life partner most of us these days we pray while we already have someone in our minds which prohibits God from giving the answers or sometimes we see the red signs before marriage but we ignore due to the feelings as human beings but that's God telling you to stop! So by marrying a wrong partner disagreements,arguing lack of peace starts after a few time of marriage as the end is always divorce or unhappy life! Therefore before making that big step please and please ask God he knows you and he knows who fits you don't ever rely on your mind and eyes "KNOW GOD!KNOW LIFE"
Spiritled469: Yes you are right on the stats however, many lawyers tell their clients that the judge does not want to hear all the stuff regarding, affairs and what goes with it, they suggest and basicly ask their clients to say communication or of the like. So the numbers do not reflect the reality. fyi
As far as this forum, yeah! Divorce is horrible for all involved even if they do not think so at the time, the children, the in-laws, those who are married and the shadow of marriage and the bride of Christ. Yet, we are humans and things happen. It has been 16 years since my divorce and I still hurt over it. Someone said, that it does not really go away. I see the effects in my kids, but...although I deeply loved my ex, after 21 years, I still loved him (silly me) but things were not livable anymore. As a christian the entire time, I tried real hard and probably put up with more than I should have. Affairs, abuse (emotional) and later physical to my children is where I drew the line.
It's been a hard walk and more difficult to get the courage to know anyone but it is more difficult as I get older, I just don't trust anyone, I am finding. I've been waiting and know that the Father, if He wills, will find someone for me and it is not easy being alone, in fact, I'm getting quite tired of it. Traveling the world alone without anyone to share it with? Dang. I come onto this site maybe twice a year? LOL
I keep hoping that someone will pop into my life. But, I am still sad inside of the divorce, because I see the effects, the results on the family. what do you do? really?
Ehhhm. This is a funny topic. Nothing is a black n White issue there are always gray area. “If a man marries THE divorced woman that he put away. It’s not supposed to mean “A divorced woman” he commits adultry. The Bible is referring to the specific person put away for no good cause. Anywho, what was likely going on is the same thing happening now which is wife swapping or watching your wife mess with another man-that’s called adultry. There are weird people out there like that. What happens when the wife puts herself away and not the man? Where’s that in the Bible? I’m pretty sure the Bible is saying if you divorce a person for the sole reason to marry someone else you had in mind-you’re an adulterer. That’s why it says if you divorce someone and marry someone else. It doesn’t say then later find someone else. The Bible doesn’t list every single scenario so we have to use a combo of our brains and the Holy Spirit to guide us. I don’t believe in divorce , but I also don’t believe in black n white only issues. I’m divorced. Worst choice I made was marrying the second man who proposed to me. And this was a prophecy prophesied wrong. Now I’m suffering financially even more. SMH. I went backwards in life when I found him. I stress to people make sure you ask G-d how to interpret a vision/prophesy someone gave you 😩😩😩😩
I’m for divorce. Are you near death because of the spouse? Divorce.You were cheated on? Divorce. They an addict? Divorce. Outside of that....no good reason I can think of.. What is the sacrifice of Christ for if people can’t be cleansed of sin? I’m also a forgiver, but I will be tally marking 490 times and after that 490th Im out!
I think the disciples response here is kind of telling, why would they say this so strongly. Its better not to marry, what is going on?
"Matthew 19:10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it."
I also want to point out that a lot of people use verse 9 to say that fornication can be used as an exception. However the Greek word fornication (porneia) is used instead of the word (moicheia), which means adultery? Why was fornication (porneia) used in the place of adultery? Jesus knew what word He was using, fornication is usually used for wrong behavior before marriage. In other words when Joseph was going to put away Mary after finding out she was pregnant, that would have applied. This is the only verse that can be used as an exception and it has doubt cast upon it. I would be very skeptical that Jesus meant we should remarry.
"Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."
hm.. talk about divorce sometimes make me worry to make a step