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  • May 18, 2018

    This forum is so amazing,i really like it!

    For my views in short God did not plan for divorce and remarriage as scriptures conveys that he hates divorce! what leads Christians to all these is having God without knowing him in deep! God never keep quiet if you truly ask him for a right life partner most of us these days we pray while we already have someone in our minds which prohibits God from giving the answers or sometimes we see the red signs before marriage but we ignore due to the feelings as human beings but that's God telling you to stop! So by marrying a wrong partner disagreements,arguing lack of peace starts after  a few time of marriage as the end is always divorce or unhappy life! Therefore before making that big step please and please ask God he knows you and he knows who fits you don't ever rely on your mind and eyes "KNOW GOD!KNOW LIFE"

  • INHISWORD311

    May 27, 2018

    Spiritled469: Yes you are right on the stats however, many lawyers tell their clients that the judge does not want to hear all the stuff regarding, affairs and what goes with it, they suggest and basicly ask their clients to say communication or of the like. So the numbers do not reflect the reality. fyi

    As far as this forum, yeah! Divorce is horrible for all involved even if they do not think so at the time, the children, the in-laws, those who are married and the shadow of marriage and the bride of Christ. Yet, we are humans and things happen. It has been 16 years since my divorce and I still hurt over it. Someone said, that it does not really go away. I see the effects in my kids, but...although I deeply loved my ex, after 21 years, I still loved him (silly me) but things were not livable anymore. As a christian the entire time, I tried real hard and probably put up with more than I should have. Affairs, abuse (emotional) and later physical to my children is where I drew the line.

    It's been a hard walk and more difficult to get the courage to know anyone but it is more difficult as I get older, I just don't trust anyone, I am finding. I've been waiting and know that the Father, if He wills, will find someone for me and it is not easy being alone, in fact, I'm getting quite tired of it. Traveling the world alone without anyone to share it with? Dang. I come onto this site maybe twice a year? LOL

    I keep hoping that someone will pop into my life. But, I am still sad inside of the divorce, because I see the effects, the results on the family. what do you do? really?

  • COUNTINGUP334

    June 1, 2018

    Ehhhm. This is a funny topic. Nothing is a black n White issue there are always gray area.  “If a man marries THE divorced woman that he put away. It’s not supposed to mean “A divorced woman” he commits adultry. The Bible is referring to the specific person put away for no good cause. Anywho, what was likely going on is the same thing happening now which is wife swapping or watching your wife mess with another man-that’s called adultry. There are weird people out there like that.  What happens when the wife puts herself away and not the man? Where’s that in the Bible? I’m pretty sure the Bible is saying if you divorce a person for the sole reason to marry someone else you had in mind-you’re an adulterer. That’s why it says if you divorce someone and marry someone else. It doesn’t say then later find someone else. The Bible doesn’t list every single scenario so we have to use a combo of our brains and the Holy Spirit to guide us. I don’t believe in divorce , but I also don’t believe in black n white only issues. I’m divorced. Worst choice I made was marrying the second man who proposed to me. And this was a prophecy prophesied wrong. Now I’m suffering financially even more. SMH. I went backwards in life when I found him. I stress to people make sure you ask G-d how to interpret a vision/prophesy someone gave you 😩😩😩😩

  • COUNTINGUP334

    June 1, 2018

    I’m for divorce. Are you near death because of the spouse? Divorce.You were cheated on? Divorce. They an addict? Divorce.  Outside of that....no good reason I can think of.. What is the sacrifice of Christ for if people can’t be cleansed of sin? I’m also a forgiver, but I will be tally marking 490 times and after that 490th Im out!

    June 1, 2018 updated by COUNTINGUP334

  • September 22, 2018

    I think the disciples response here is kind of telling, why would they say this so strongly. Its better not to marry, what is going on?
    "Matthew 19:10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
    11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
    12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it."
    I also want to point out that a lot of people use verse 9 to say that fornication can be used as an exception. However the Greek word fornication (porneia) is used instead of the word (moicheia), which means adultery? Why was fornication (porneia) used in the place of adultery? Jesus knew what word He was using, fornication is usually used for wrong behavior before marriage. In other words when Joseph was going to put away Mary after finding out she was pregnant, that would have applied. This is the only verse that can be used as an exception and it has doubt cast upon it. I would be very skeptical that Jesus meant we should remarry.
    "Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."

  • October 8, 2018

    hm.. talk about divorce sometimes make me worry to make a step

  • SAHR941

    February 23

    VIRG618 wrote:

    God hate divorce, but He loves divorcees. They should remarry.

    I don't think so.  If you divorce and remarry you are an adulterer.

  • SAHR941

    February 23

    your case is different. you are not the first and so the man is not yours. You are free to remarry.

    DOCSALMA809 wrote:

    Very interesting discussion.....I am reading this in 2017......I would like to share my past experience...

    I was born and raised as a muslim till I was 33 yrs old.....though I rarely practised Islam or like the Sharia laws....

    At the age of 26 I married a muslim guy after dating him for a year.....It was a long distance relationship.He was also 26 yrs old.

    I married him according to the muslim Customs after taking consent from my parents in presence of only 5 people who were from his side.( my parents were not living in the same town so they were not present for 'Nikah'.His parents were also not present....only his cousin brothers,muslim priest and his friends were present.

    After one week of ' Nikah' (wedding) He tells me about his first marriage and his child.I was shattered....His parents came running and convinced me that his wife has divorced him and now I am their daughter in law....I had no choice but to accept the circumstances....

    A few mns later he divorces me because his first wife wins a case against him and comes back in his life...( I think it was out of court settlement with his wife).Before all this happens he seperates from me and agrees for a divorce.(till date his first wife does not know about his marriage with me).

    This was a fraud.......I moved on with life.....at the age of 33 I recieved Jesus as my Lord and saviour....

    I had many questions to God about this incidence.Because I believe GOD made Adam and gave him only one wife.

    I was always against the muslim laws which allows 4 marriages.

    My first marriage was  a lie....and my ex was already a married man... So i Consider my first marriage as Null and void.

    I respect the institution of marriage very much.

    I am against divorce....but there are individual cases like mine....I had no choice but to walk out of that marriage.

    Yes I am considering a second marriage If GOD wills and have my own family.

  • SAHR941

    February 23

    God bless you sis, you have said it all.

    ELLY224 wrote:

    This forum is so amazing,i really like it!

    For my views in short God did not plan for divorce and remarriage as scriptures conveys that he hates divorce! what leads Christians to all these is having God without knowing him in deep! God never keep quiet if you truly ask him for a right life partner most of us these days we pray while we already have someone in our minds which prohibits God from giving the answers or sometimes we see the red signs before marriage but we ignore due to the feelings as human beings but that's God telling you to stop! So by marrying a wrong partner disagreements,arguing lack of peace starts after  a few time of marriage as the end is always divorce or unhappy life! Therefore before making that big step please and please ask God he knows you and he knows who fits you don't ever rely on your mind and eyes "KNOW GOD!KNOW LIFE"

  • July 13

    Wow, awesome. I learn a lot from you guys.

    As for divorce & re-marriage, the Bible is clear. Both acts resulted from the fall of humanity, not created in the beginning. or not the original intention of God. However, God allows both under some conditions such as the death of a spouse.

  • JOHN717

    July 17

    There are issues that are already tied to a verdict. The term "re-marriage" was forged in order to identify the guilty parties (label them) and thus re-perpetuate their sin, expose them insurmountably to being unrepentant adulterers and that their salvation is lost. "Will the divorced be saved?" Is the name of a book (and obviously the answer is no, according to the writer, since they assume a perpetual condition of adulterers and adulterers do not enter the Kingdom of Heaven, period! following…).

    the re-married, have no opportunity for ministry. you know, they are not a good example and they are outside the norms to bishops "husband of a single woman".

    So the sword is in the hands of many, and many beheaded there, others are left alone, and are accepted "by God and their communities," are in a state "consoled and honored" and fear for life to lose "that state "

    I am not a defender of divorce, believers should not be! Marriage is the plan, and divorce is an exception, but today divorce is the rule.
    Marriage and bed without blemish is the honorable state. Not divorce! And the issue to consider is one: LOVE

    But, there are texts that I believe have been misunderstood and for a biblical believer, it is worth more what the script says than his opinions and "good intentions".

    Then there are issues like this that take us not only to the text, but to the interpretation of the text and its application.
    There is only one text spoken by our Lord and Savior (King, Teacher, Priest, prophet and God) Jesus. And it is known,
    The controversy over whether divorce and remarriage is allowed according to the Bible revolves primarily around the words of Jesus in Matthew 5:32 and 19: 9. The phrase "except for conjugal infidelity" is the only thing in Scripture that possibly gives God permission for divorce and remarriage.

    And here the term "phorneia" appears, and then they say: it is fornication and applies only in a state of "singleness". And well, given that way, the result is obvious: "take out your sword and kill a divorced person and you will win heaven, because you are jealous of the scriptures".

    But the word fornication is not limited TO THE SINGLES, and there is all the error !, (they made us believe that this was the point!)

    But fornication is the explicit and physical sexual act in every immoral aspect (it includes sodomy, and perversions and others, but it is also sex with people other than your spouse).

    Adultery, is the act of infidelity and disloyalty, and does not necessarily imply sexual act, as our Lord said: "if anyone covets a woman who is not his wife, already an adulterer in his heart").

    So we could say that that fornication given as an exception by Jesus in Matthew, refers to fornication in adultery, bone, immoral sexual relationship in a state of marriage.


    That is why in the ancient prophetic books God speaks to Israel and calls him adulteress and gives him a letter of divorce, but in other cases, the fornicary call (it will be that God to the ancient prophets did not teach them that "fornication is only for singles! ") or it will not be that there is a lot of ignorance!, ignorance certainly hinders, and just as Paul" jealous for the law "and willing to kill, blinded by his ignorance, there are many and entire denominations!

    For the prophets, as God reveals to them, call adultery, and they also call Israel fornicators. not only was he unfaithful in his hypocritical heart, "he honors me with lips" (adultera) but he acted, physically worshiping other idols, osse, who had idols in his heart (adultery in his heart) and also made material idols which I adore (spiritual fornication), being married to God (not the fault of God "from before", but of his present) and then God gives him a divorce letter (for the second, bony, for his fornication or when he materialized his adultery heart).

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    July 22 updated by CMATCH

  • August 30

    Everyone has done tremendous study and post work on this issue of divorce. I however want to summarise my take in all to saying that causes to our derailments in marriages come from going into marriages, prematurely, and taking God for granted. I however pray God help us know Him accordingly. There are things that make me fear to marrows about God and that I believe teaches us lessons about God's walk with man. So many things but to mention few; God is in no respect of persons, God will not lower His standard for man to comply with, there's no shadow of turning with God, God is love, God is a consuming fire, etc. I wish to draw our attention to the fact that we as Christians, are in an era or dispensation of grace(of Christ) doesn't mean God will not later judge all acts of men. That Christ came with grace for all believers is no excuse for ignorance of mischief. I say this because of my understanding that we Christians often blend ignorance with provisions of God's grace in Christ, not remembering there's no excuse, nor hiding to our minds idols, neither for ignorance towards obeying God's word in general. Summary are; God hates divorce, we divorce for not getting matured before going into marriage, lack of love, and taking God for granted as we also lay up idols for ourselves in our hearts. It's one thing for us to say we know God, and another for us to follow God. If we don't follow God to the end, we've neither known nor followed God, and this is why some persons story in the Bible ended with question mark. Jonah is one of such persons in the Bible who's stories ended with question mark. May God help us that we don't deviate from God and this faith, for love of the things of the world, and that our history don't end with question mark in God's book of record. We need pray God always, to deliver us in this life, even as we die from day to day, to the things of the world, and resurrect with Christ.

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